How God Weaves a Family

21 08 2008

I discovered Laura in a search for like-minded parents who were also experiencing the crazy life of foster parenting. I have been challenged and encouraged by her thoughts on God’s heart for these precious children, as well as for their parents. It has been an incredible blessing to share our hearts and the things we are learning through this process. This is her story…

The seed, the idea of adoption, was planted before either of our biological children arrived.  When we were told that we might not be able to conceive, adoption became an exciting option. Ultimately, we did conceive, twice. We were and are thrilled to be parents of two healthy biological children, ages 8 & 5. As our family has grown and matured, it was as if a person or two… or even three, were missing.   It wasn’t a sadness, or a reduced sense of happiness; just an odd feeling that those chairs at our table were meant for someone permanent. Read the rest of this entry »


Thoughts on Foster Care

20 08 2008

“I don’t want to be a foster parent,” I prayed as I got into my car after our first foster parenting class. “I want children to be a permanent part of our lives. I don’t like this temporary parenting idea.” I assured myself that the only reason we were in these classes to begin with was to be able to provide a home for Little Buddy. That was all. And we were going to adopt him anyway, so all that we had learned in the previous three hours had not applied to us. Or had it? Read the rest of this entry »

Toddler Adoption

1 08 2008

This is a book recommendation from our International Adoption Clinic that I am only just beginning. The author is Dr. Mary Hopkins-Best who teaches at University of Wisconsin-Stout. For a brief sampling of the type of material covered in this book, you can listen to a 20-minute podcast of a question and answer session with the author here. I have heard excellent things about this book and look forward to reading it and reviewing it soon. Click on the image to read more reviews or to buy this book.

Becoming a Family

1 08 2008

This book came recommended by our International Adoption Clinic and I found it a good overview to the issues of attachment in adoption. The author, Lark Eshleman, Ph.D. is a child therapist at The Institute for Children and Families in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. She has created a book that is easy to read and filled with practical advice on how to foster attachments, as well as information on the therapies available for dealing with more serious issues. I would suggest reading this as an introduction to what attachment issues may be faced in adoption and use it as a springboard for further research if you want to find out more.

Many people find this topic uncomfortable and don’t want to believe that they will face attachment issues with their adopted child. Although this book does not focus on the negative, there are a few examples of extreme cases of attachment disorder. My personal view is that it is wise to educate yourself on all the possibilities so you can set your expectations accordingly. How much better to be prepared for the inevitable difficulties, attachment or otherwise, than to bring your child home having no clue when one of these problems arises.  Click on the image above to read more reviews or buy this book.