Why Did You Adopt Older Children?

2 09 2008

Ramona and her husband, Bob, have three biological children and have adopted eight older children, several from disruptions. Check out their blog, Adoption 3:16, for further insights into dealing with the issues that arise from older child adoption.

This is a question often asked of parents who have adopted older children.  The answers will vary greatly, but I can attempt to answer regarding our own experience. 

After the birth of our third child, we were no longer physically able to have children through biological means.  The thought of adopting was a small seed in the back of our minds which was brought to the forefront occasionally, but not usually seriously considered.  One Sunday, God began to grow that seed, though, and our lives have not been the same since.  Read the rest of this entry »


Heart Thoughts from a Mother

1 09 2008

Kathy Rosenow and her husband, Scott, are directors of a ministry called, The Shepherd’s Crook, that finds adoptive families for children with special needs. They have four biological children and have adopted 13 special needs children from all over the world.

It was just one of those days, and the shoes were the final straw for me. It was Sunday. We were moving through the typical Sunday rush of trying to get eighteen people out the door to church with clothes that matched and also fit the bodies wearing them, no signs of breakfast on faces, and diaper and cath bags all properly packed. I was, as usual for Sunday mornings, closed up in my room doing hair on each girl, one at a time. While moving through the routine of plugging in curling irons, digging through the hairbow box, and blow-drying my own hair, I had been pondering some topics from a recent discussion with Scott involving some language issues with Madlin that we felt might be related to her learning disabilities. Read the rest of this entry »

How God Weaves a Family

21 08 2008

I discovered Laura in a search for like-minded parents who were also experiencing the crazy life of foster parenting. I have been challenged and encouraged by her thoughts on God’s heart for these precious children, as well as for their parents. It has been an incredible blessing to share our hearts and the things we are learning through this process. This is her story…

The seed, the idea of adoption, was planted before either of our biological children arrived.  When we were told that we might not be able to conceive, adoption became an exciting option. Ultimately, we did conceive, twice. We were and are thrilled to be parents of two healthy biological children, ages 8 & 5. As our family has grown and matured, it was as if a person or two… or even three, were missing.   It wasn’t a sadness, or a reduced sense of happiness; just an odd feeling that those chairs at our table were meant for someone permanent. Read the rest of this entry »

Thoughts on Foster Care

20 08 2008

“I don’t want to be a foster parent,” I prayed as I got into my car after our first foster parenting class. “I want children to be a permanent part of our lives. I don’t like this temporary parenting idea.” I assured myself that the only reason we were in these classes to begin with was to be able to provide a home for Little Buddy. That was all. And we were going to adopt him anyway, so all that we had learned in the previous three hours had not applied to us. Or had it? Read the rest of this entry »

Toddler Adoption

1 08 2008

This is a book recommendation from our International Adoption Clinic that I am only just beginning. The author is Dr. Mary Hopkins-Best who teaches at University of Wisconsin-Stout. For a brief sampling of the type of material covered in this book, you can listen to a 20-minute podcast of a question and answer session with the author here. I have heard excellent things about this book and look forward to reading it and reviewing it soon. Click on the image to read more reviews or to buy this book.

Becoming a Family

1 08 2008

This book came recommended by our International Adoption Clinic and I found it a good overview to the issues of attachment in adoption. The author, Lark Eshleman, Ph.D. is a child therapist at The Institute for Children and Families in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. She has created a book that is easy to read and filled with practical advice on how to foster attachments, as well as information on the therapies available for dealing with more serious issues. I would suggest reading this as an introduction to what attachment issues may be faced in adoption and use it as a springboard for further research if you want to find out more.

Many people find this topic uncomfortable and don’t want to believe that they will face attachment issues with their adopted child. Although this book does not focus on the negative, there are a few examples of extreme cases of attachment disorder. My personal view is that it is wise to educate yourself on all the possibilities so you can set your expectations accordingly. How much better to be prepared for the inevitable difficulties, attachment or otherwise, than to bring your child home having no clue when one of these problems arises.  Click on the image above to read more reviews or buy this book.

Adoption as a Ministry, Adoption as a Blessing

2 07 2008

This is an easy read about one family’s experience with adoption. Michelle Gardner gives a detailed account of how she and her husband, Steve, had the perfect family with their three children until God began to stir them up to consider His heart for the orphaned. This book includes the adoption stories of three of their children, all of which had some special needs. I love to read about the experiences others have had with adoption, so this was an enjoyable read for me. Though I am curious about the rest of the story. The Gardners went on to adopt six more children after the writing of this book! They also began Kingdom Kids Adoption Ministries as a means of encouraging, educating and equipping families who are considering adoption. Click on the image for more reviews or to buy this book.